Five Keys to Being Happy

Did you notice the title?

It doesn’t say Five keys to happiness, it says Five keys to Being happy. We are not talking about some metaphysical or abstract concept called happiness. We are going to talk about being happy.

BE is a verb. It implies action. Being is the continuous form of the the verb, so we’re not talking about a one time deal either. It is a continuous process. But first let’s get that metaphysical concept of happiness out of the way, so we are not distracted by it.

My definition: Happiness is a state of BEING.

You can either be happy not be happy. There is no middle ground. Either you are or you’re not.

There are two ways you can be happy. The first, and the easiest way to do it, is to just make a decision to be happy. The second, less easier way is to first BECOME happy, and then stay happy. (There are no difficult ways of being happy)

While making a decision to be happy is the easiest way to do it, most of us find it very difficult because we are not taught to be decisive. We are told to get second opinions and to check the alternatives and always be suspicious of our decisions, because we could possibly make a mistake, and so forth. Yes, all of that has merit, but when it comes to deciding to be happy, you can never make a mistake. So if you are prone to indecisiveness, you’d have to use the second, less easier method to first get there, and then stay there.

In order to become something, anything, you must develop habits that are conducive to being what you want to be. The same principle applies to becoming happy. You must develop the habits that are conducive to being Happy.

1. Accept what IS. We live in a cause and effect Universe. What IS is a result of individual and collective causes. You cannot change it. That doesn’t mean you have to condone or like everything that is. As a matter of fact, if there is something that you don’t like, know that you have the power to cause it to change, but the effect of that cause will be in the future, be that a microsecond, or a millennium or an eon. Accepting what IS, empowers you, and that is conducive to being happy.

Lord! Grant me the courage to change the things I can, The serenity to accept the things I can’t, and
The wisdom to know the difference.

2. Know that everything always works out. Surrender to life knowing that in the end it will all work out for the best. This principle was confirmed for me and my family a few years back when we were returning home from a winter vacation in Oklahoma.

The roads were snow covered, and we saw numerous vehicles in the ditches and on the side of the road as we drove along on Interstate 35. My wife asked, “What would we do if we end up like that?”

I replied, “First of all, I don’t believe that we will, but if anything was to happen, it will never be a situation that we cannot handle.”

Needless to say, a little while later our van went into a spin on a thin patch of ice and when we finally stopped, we were parked in the median between the southbound and northbound lanes. As we were coming to a stop, from the corner of my eye, I saw a pick up truck from the other side making a U-turn into the median, and he was behind us before we knew it. I tried to drive out, but we were stuck. The man with the pick up truck pulled us out and refused to accept any money for doing so.

Life is meant to be easy; if it’s not, you’re doing it wrong. ~ Rasheed Hooda

3. Stay connected and centered. Happy people are always spiritually connected and centered. I was fortunate enough to be brought up in an environment that fostered and nurtured spiritual connection. We got up early every morning to attend pre-dawn prayer services, and we attended prayers services every evening. Today, I still do my best to attend pre-dawn services. I can feel the difference throughout the day when I miss them. Though I don’t attend the evening services regularly, I say my prayers before going to sleep. My children have learned the same principle of opening and closing the day with prayers, though they do not attend the daily services.

Gratitude is the best way to connect with the Divine. Happy people are grateful for everything in life. They realize that Life itself is a gift and are grateful for it. Gratitude takes many forms. Tithing, charity or simply appreciation for life are all form of gratitude and will keep you connected and centered.

Gratitude is the power line to the Universe. Make sure you are plugged in. ~ Croz from Oz

4. Nourish your mind and body. Stop! Take a moment to check in with yourself. How do you feel right now? Chances are that you’re feeling good. That maybe because you have been nourishing your mind for the past few minutes with this positive and life affirming article. Happy people keep their minds filled with life affirming thoughts and messages. Read books and articles that make you feel positive and vibrant. Associate with people who lift you up, rather than bring you down. Make time pray and meditate. When you pray, you are talking to the Divine. When you meditate you are allowing the Divine to talk to you.

Your body is the temple of your soul, or at the least, the space you occupy while you are on this earthly journey. Make sure it is well taken care of. In order to maintain your body in an optimal operating condition, you must provide it with good nutrition and ample physical activity.

I am not a health professional, so I am not qualified to give you health advice, but I’ll share with you what works for me. I have learned, over the years, to listen to my body. It has an inherent, built in intelligence that is capable of sustaining it. I tune into this intelligence by paying attention to the signals my body sends me. I know when I have had too much of a good thing, or not enough of it. In first case I feel miserable, in the latter, I feel weak and drained. I let the body guide me to the right solution. Sometimes it is physical activity, other times it is a particular food or simply drinking more water. Let your talk to you, it won’t lead you astray.

My mind, body and spirit are the most powerful things in this Universe. And becasue of this blessed gift, I can overcome anything ~ Jaferaly Hooda

5. .Do what makes you happy. Take Action. If the pursuit of happiness is making you stressed and miserable, there is something wrong with what you’re doing. Quit it! The goal of every activity is to create joy. If it is not doing that, stop it.

BEING HAPPY is a moment by moment undertaking. Now is all you’ve got; and if you’re not happy NOW, then I can assure you that whatever it is that you’re doing now, will not make you happy in the future.

Evaluate your business and career. Is it something that invigorates you or something that drains you. The answer will determine your next action if you truly want to be happy.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind! ~ Dr. Seuss

Life is too short. Live with Passion and Purpose. And don’t settle for anything less than Happiness if you want a fulfilling life. You deserve it.

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(c) 2009 Rasheed Hooda aka CoachHappiness

Dancing with God

I had been struggling with the idea of starting a blog to share with the world my experiences and my thoughts and feelings about them, the lessons I learned and how I grew both intellectually and spiritually as a result of those experiences, but I lacked confidence in my ability to consistently produce enough material to keep it going. So I procrastinated, and I procrastinated some more, and some more, till I couldn’t procrastinate no more…. Then I procrastinated some more, and some more.

But, you know what? When your purpose is calling you, you can procrastinate for only so long. First you lose the comfort of procrastination. It is no longer satisfying to procrastinate. Then, you begin getting uncomfortable with it, and then it just becomes down right unbearable. You can’t take it anymore, you have to do something about it.

Well, when I got to that point, I went out and signed up for a WordPress account. Now I can fool myself by procrastinating to learn how to work with WP, and I have been doing that since July of last year. But, unbeknownst to me, I had been actually gathering up the courage and the confidence to do it. I was learning to recognize my passion and purpose and to trust it, to surrender to it.

Last week, I went to the library and got two books on blogging and finally went out and bought a for Dummies book on WordPress and started playing with it. I still wasn’t sure what I am going to write. But when I got to where I was learning about creating a post, an email I had recently received surfaced in my mind. I instantly knew that my fears about my inability to have things to write about consistently were unfounded. When you surrender to your purpose, you recognize that your ego no longer has to be incharge. You don’t have to do anything, everything is done through you.

Now, I am sitting here laughing at myself as I write this post, because I am doing exactly what I wanted to do all along: Sharing my experiences, and  my thoughts and feelings about them. It’s not that big of a deal when you surrender to your purpose.

Do not hesitate or waver for fear that when you come to any certain place you will fail for lack of ability. Keep right on, and when you come to that place, the ability will be furnished to you. ~ Wallace D Wattles, Science of Getting Rich

Oh, and if you are wondering what was that email was that triggered the “duh!” moment and prompted the confidence, here it is. I just could not deny you its wisdom.

Dancing With God

When I meditated on the word  Guidance, I kept seeing “dance” at the end of the word.

I remembered reading that doing God’s will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn’t flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky.   

When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead, both bodies begin to flow with the music. One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back or by pressing lightly in one direction or another. It’s as if two become one body, moving beautifully. 

The dance takes surrender, willingness, and attentiveness from one person and gentle guidance and skill from the other.

My eyes drew back to the word Guidance.  When I saw “G”: I thought of God, followed by “U” and “I”.   “God, “U” and “I” dance.”   God, you, and I dance.   

As I lowered my head, I became willing to trust   that I would get guidance about my life.   Once again, I became willing to let God lead.

My prayer for you today is that God’s blessings and mercy are upon you on this day and everyday. May you abide in God, as God abides in you. Dance together with God, trusting God to lead and to guide you through each season of your life.

This prayer is powerful and there is nothing attached. If God has done anything for you in your life, please share this message with someone else. There is no cost but rewards are many. So let’s continue to pray for one another.

And I Hope You Dance !